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9 Ways to Keep Your Sh*t Together When Others Do Not

October 9, 2014

Great article from today. Especially important as we move thru the Change in seasons. Stay calm, cool and grounded!

Challenges. They knock us on our ass. They slap us on the face. And they leave us with a choice: to stay on the ground or to stand up and move forward.

Fears feed off fear, anger off anger, love off love, laughter off laughter. You get the idea. So how do we remain true to ourselves, our beliefs, and our daily practices when we are thrown off of life’s teeter-totter by others who can’t keep their shit together?

9 Ways to Keep Your Shit Together When Others Do Not

1. Be easy on yourself.
This is a daily practice that includes a large amount of forgiveness, because it is easy to get side tracked and caught up in whatever is going on. It doesn’t mean you throw in the towel. It means you acknowledge that this isn’t how you would like to be thinking or talking or reacting, forgive yourself knowing it’s a practice, and move forward trying again and again.
2. Make time for yourself.
Time for yourself means in a quiet space where you can realign to how you want to feel. If you don’t have time for yourself, make time. And it doesn’t have to be complicated — give yourself three minutes (that’s 180 seconds friends — we can do this!) to take deep breaths in the nose and out of the mouth.
3. Breathe.
And if you don’t breathe, at least build an awareness around the fact that we were just holding our breath for seconds.
4. Notice where you are tight, fearful, reactive.
Do your shoulders shrug into your ears? Does blood rush to your face? Take note, then breathe through and to that area.
5. Realize that everything always works out.
It does.
6. Move the way love moves.
When I begin a defensive rant or take something personally, I realize that I am reacting out of protection. Out of fear. Out of ego. Love is soft. Love knows that everything will be OK. Trust the process, as hard as it can be. As heart wrenching as it can be. Life will never give you something that you can’t handle. The more you can open yourself up this way, the more you allow others to do the same. Of course, not immediately. But lead by example. If you begin to preach, people stop listening.
7. Surround yourself with likeminded people.
You can’t always control this, but try your best.
8. Find peace within the chaos.
Once again, this is a practice. And in order to make it a habit, I need to put sticky notes in places I will stumble across them during my day (my steering wheel, my planner, and my refrigerator). Sometimes I even set an alarm on my phone. Believe me, half the time my alarm goes off, I scratch my head as to why. Oh yea, because I am reminding myself [insert what you want to be reminded of here]. Great reminders for myself have included: I forgive. Abundance. Create the life you live. Breathe. You cannot get it wrong. Move from a place of love. It’s ok.
9. Self care.
BOOM. We all know what it is, but are we consistent? Self care is our foundation. Noticing what we feed ourselves, how often we shower, exercise, treat ourselves, enjoy a cup of warm lemon water or tea, and/or sit down and eat. If we can’t take care of ourselves, then clearly, we can’t hold our shit together


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