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Be a Quitter: 3 Things to Always Be Quitting

January 16, 2015

This is probably the simplest list of things to eliminate today for good!

In a world where no one wants to be labeled a quitter, I am here to tell you I am always quitting.

To give you an idea, I’ve said adios to romances, friendships, religious beliefs, jobs, running, dieting, eating meat, vegetarianism, eating dairy, gluten, not eating gluten.

We all know the Lombardi saying, “A winner never quits and a quitter never wins.”

But as any poker player knows, sometimes quitting is strategic, sometimes it can be your best possible plan, and sometimes quitting is how to win.

I believe it’s OK to let go of things that no longer serve you, things that hold you back or make you feel small. I also whole heartedly believe in hard work & seeing things to the finish. This is not a paradox.

To help us understand quitting, let’s revisit Econ 101. Flip to the sections on sunk cost and opportunity cost. Sunk cost is about the past – the time or money or sweat equity you’ve put into a job or relationship or a project. It makes quitting hard. Opportunity cost is about the future. In essence, for every second or penny you spend on X, you’re giving up the opportunity to invest in Y (i.e. something that might be better). If only you weren’t so strung out on the sunk cost, you could … quit.

Sometimes you have to take two steps back in order to take one step forward. That’s just part of the journey. And, in reality all movement is forward; there is no such thing as going backwards. Those were just the lessons necessary to help you see and feel and know what opportunities are worth pursuit.

Often, we have to figure out what doesn’t work before we can understand what we really want. I rarely buy a dress or a pair of shoes without trying them on first. I walk through the store, pick-up everything that catches my eye (practical and not so practical) then head to the dressing room. Sometimes the things I didn’t think were practical are perfect. I would have never known if I didn’t try.

So give yourself permission to step out of the box, to try things on for size and then return anything that doesn’t serve you.

Here are 3 things to always be quitting:

1. Relationships that inhibit growth

Quit poor romantic partners, neighbors, best friends, coworkers and golf buddies. The people you choose to spend your time with are either helping you grow, or they’re preventing your growth. Notice what’s right with the positive relationships in your life, and actively seek more of that. Fill your life with these people and crowd out those that hold you back.

2. A lackluster career or hobby

Wake up, go to work, run in circles for eight to 12 hours, come home, go to sleep, repeat. Sound familiar?

For some folks the work week is a life sucking, happiness draining, smile erasing nightmare of a paycheck that can’t be spent in the way you want to spend it because you’re always working and can’t take vacation days. If that sounds like your life, then you should quit.

Maybe that sounds dramatic. But if what you spend the majority of your time each and every day (ie. one and only life) doing doesn’t get you excited or provide an outlet for your creativity and passion start crafting an exit plan.

3. Bad habits

Bad habits stunt your growth and achievement faster than anything else. You can have fabulous relationships and a fulfilling career but if your life is filled with self-sabotaging habits, you’re facing an uphill battle. So it starts here, with developing and growing yourself.

Take stock of all the bad habits you have right now, and one by one, start quitting them. It takes time to change a habit, but it can be done. It must be done if you want to really know what it’s like to live a successful life.

Examples: Facebook, Instagram, Smoking, Binge Eating, Negative Self Talk, Crash Dieting

These three types of quitting aligns us with our truth. They help us to create the life we want to live.

So, what’s the first thing you’re going to quit?

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